For me this post is a long time coming….three years to be exact!
It is with great pride and personal joy that I share with you that I have been in counseling for over three years and I am not ashamed!
After my divorce and battle with cancer, my mind went places that were unstable, unhealthy and scary. My line of thinking was often more emotional than rational and I consistently reacted to those around me as opposed to responding to them.
I knew I had to make a change and so I sought counseling. Oh my goodness…..the word ‘Therapist’ sends many people into a panic. As though I am practicing some sort of new age technique and pumping myself full of mind numbing medications.
This far from the truth: I had to realign my thinking to a more healthy and whole perspective. I needed to learn and develop coping skills to deal with the reality that ‘life is hard.’ I needed to acknowledge the negative coping techniques I was using and replace them with healthy ones!
Glass half empty: I had to face a lot of icky stuff about myself and those around me I love.
Glass half full: I had to face the fact that what I was doing wasn’t working and seeking help from someone who did know successful techniques! That is a huge step!
Why talk about this right now? Well, in our society we are inundated with all sorts of stuff, info, articles and videos via social media BUT so often the important topics get drowned out by all of the noise. MENTAL HEALTH IS AN IMPORTANT TOPIC.
There is no shame in seeking help! There is also no shame in talking about the help you are getting and the best thing I can do is share my story!
My counselor has shown me techniques that make me an awesome person! As she puts it she has helped me equip my emotional tool Box! I am proud of the steps and progress I have made to become an emotionally confident and stable women but at the end of the day I still remain someone who continuously makes mistakes (I made a super big one this week….hurting someone I love very much) The difference between three year ago me and now is before I would choose not to address my weakness, the hurtful words I said and instead wallow in self pity. Now I know I made a mistake, apologized for my thoughtless and hurtful words, learned from my mistake and understand that I have to accept any collateral damage or repercussions that may have resulted.
That is ok!
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